I believe everyone know something about Depression. However, not everyone understand about the inner struggle and fear of a person who is facing depression.
I hope my true life story will allow more people to understand the inner world of the depression patient and the ways to take care and help them to walk out of the darkness.
I also hope that through my story, people who is go through this struggle and darkness will know that you are not alone. I had been through it and still struggling on it.
For those who do not know what is Depression.
Here the explanation of Depression :
Depression is more than feeling down or being sad. Depression may affect your work, interest in activities and quality of life. It is not a sign of weakness and it does not just ‘go away’. Depression can happen to anyone.
Depression is a medical condition that affects how you think and behave, and the way you feel and function. It is one of the most common mental health problems and is faced by over 121 million people worldwide. In Singapore, an estimated 5.6% of the population are affected by depression during their lifetime.
The cause of Depression can be life events and changes that may precipitate depressed mood include childbirth, menopause, financial difficulties, job problems, a medical diagnosis (cancer, HIV, etc.), bullying, loss of a loved one, natural disasters, social isolation, relationship troubles, jealousy, separation, and catastrophic injury.
Traumatizing events that took place in childhood can cause depression. Although childhood trauma and particularly child sex abuse is not always a factor of adulthood depression, it may create psychological pathways that can lead to depression. Research has been done in this field to demonstrate the chemical involvements explaining this phenomenon
Depression is different from normal sadness as it interferes with your day-to-day life making it hard for you to work, rest and have fun. People with depression experience five or more of the following symptoms almost every day, for two weeks or longer.
Symptoms of Depression :
– Persistent sadness or emptiness
– Loss of interest in all or almost all activities
– Decrease or increase in appetite; unintentional weight loss or gain
– Difficulty in sleeping or sleeping excessively
– Restlessness or feeling agitated
– Fatigue and lacking in energy
– Difficulty concentrating or having trouble thinking and making decisions
– Frequent thoughts of death or suicide
– Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt
Here a online test for you to check on whether you or your love ones is facing depression :
Taking care or being with someone who has depression is never a easy job and can be quite challenging.
Here are some tips on taking care and being with them :
- Spend time talking with the person about their experiences and let them know that you’re there to listen without being judgmental. (*This is important, listen to them without judgement)
- Let the person know if you’ve noticed a change in their behavior.
- Give them Emotional Support , Be patient and understand them
- Encourage the person to try to get enough sleep, exercise and eat healthy food
- Let them know that you and others care about them and are available for support.
- Say small praise and positive words to them when they made a small achievement.
- Pay attention to them
- Seek professional help from doctors
What you can say that helps:
- You are not alone in this. I’m here for you.
- You may not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change.
- I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.
- When you want to give up, tell yourself you will hold on for just one more day, hour, minute — whatever you can manage.
- You are important to me. Your life is important to me.
- Tell me what I can do now to help you.
- It’s all in your head.
- We all go through times like this.
- Look on the bright side.
- You have so much to live for why do you want to die?
- I can’t do anything about your situation.
- Just snap out of it.
- What’s wrong with you?
- Shouldn’t you be better by now?
Adapted from: The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
I will be sharing and emphasizing on the tips of taking care and helping a person with depression as the story goes on.
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